That’s not my understanding. The Jesus that Mormons believe in is not at all like the Jesus that Christians believe in.

Amen

Aloha Gillian, Our stories sound similar, I’m 60, single, 2 grown daughters, both living in Kailua/Kaneohe area, (both married to Marines) I have been living in Boston (city proper) & came to Oahu in Nov 2021 & rented a condo in downtown Ala Moana area to try living here F.T.
I also enjoy the freedoms of pursuing my hobbies solo or with others that share similar interests
I must say that Peter is spot on about making friends, just put yourself out there with an open heart & mind and feel the true spirit of Aloha. In my last 5+ months I have learned to appreciate the local culture & their reluctance to invest deeply in friendships that may decide the relocation move to Hawaii is a short-term commitment, it happens all the time so it is the new person that needs to put in the extra effort.
I volunteered in Jan to work at the PGA-Sony Open, best week of my entire trip.
I made friends with many locals & all were gracious with their time, more than willing to spend days to “Talk Story”. I’m not ready to be “retired” so I’ve decided to return to Boston, get my business & finances in order, de-clutter my life & put a plan into motion that will allow me to make the jump by next year.
I’ve been going to lots of open houses & trying to figure out where I want to reside but have liked so many different areas that I can’t decide what will work best yet so I will be looking at short-term rentals in 3 or 4 different areas before I commit. Condos here seem to be a mixed bag, the more that are locally owned & operated buildings, the more important to chat up the members of the buildings security, management and HOA members becomes.
I’m so glad that I found this site & hope to learn more from everyone willing to share their experiences, I wish you all the best, Mahalo nui loa, CJ

Gillian, if you watch our videos you’ll know we’ve got the best people for real estate. Did you work with Dylan? He’s a great resource.

So an update . Bought , rented it out for a few months , now live full time in my studio in Kailua Kona for 5 months. Snuck in during the C virus ..jus finished some remodeling .
Hardest thing is living w Hoa rules that seem to apply to some and not others . I have been told to jus let everyone do what ever they want especially the STR renters as the out of state owners rely on local management who don’t care about new mainland owners . Ugh ! My question is do I just roll over and let it be or possible be beat up for voicing my opinion as a woman and white ? Almost happened .
Maybe need ” I don’t care ” bumper sticker and shirt and yes making friends is hard as a single , I volunteer mainly w couples whom seem in their own private world of couple land . Do like that I am missing a cold Co winter ..
Maybe not cut out for full time , jus need 200 days for the senior tax exemption .. and rent only to family and friends Any helpful thoughts pull be appreciated as I still enjoy ur podcasts

Hard for me to give you a good reality check as I’m outside your age/profile. The dating scene is really getting disrupted with social media apps. It’s not like there are no single women in your age range so I’d say if you learned how to become a Hawaii islander you would not no more or less chance than where you are today.

Sorry but what does this have to do with the social environment in Hawaii..?

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All the Trump supporters I know are kind loving people—many in interracial relationships. A blanket statement like that makes about as much sense as saying all Democrats blindly follow the Clintons and agree that it was OK for him to take advantage of a young employee and ejaculate on her dress…not to mention his assaults on Willey & Jones

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I’m 56 and just counting down the days to my pau hana years when I’m coming back home.

The racism in Hawaii bugged me and you know, ambitious, so naturally I moved to the mainland in my mid-20s. Talk about going from the frying pan into the fire! Holy geez, I thought Hawaii was expensive!

As I just said, I’m old. I’ve done about everything you can do on the mainland from organic farming to high tech (pays less than warehouse work) to pursuing an Olympic sport with some success. I got about 8 years to go then it’s pau fuckin’ hana

But back to the racism … I’ve seen far worse here on the mainland and been more threatened by other haoles than I ever was in Hawaii by anyone. Lotta crazy fuckers here. Trump voters …. And haoles picking on non-haoles here don’t even get me started.

Good for you on your decision! Keep us posted on the adventure!

Hi Robert,

Wow, you were lucky to visit Ni’Ihau! How did you swing that? There are great people in Hawaii… and you just have to be a great person too, to meet them. Aloha and best of luck on your move!

Hi Joe, I changed your name per your request for anonymity. I don’t know about older gay men living on the islands. There are some for sure, but what their experience is, I couldn’t begin to guess. I don’t remember there being any sort of gay bashing going on, but who knows? I thin your best bet would be to find some gay groups in Hawaii. Try Facebook. Try searching twitter for keywords that might help you find someone or a group. I’ll bet that forum city-data has some posts about it somewhere if you can find them. Search that too. Does craigslist have personals for gays in Hawaii? I think so. Check that out. I mean, write people and ask them about the scene. Good luck! Aloha!

What about an older gay man living there? Also where is a good safe place to rent?
Thanks

Ps I like your articles very easy reading